It started so innocently. Just a couple of things that made me smile last week.
That happened in the chat in the middle of class, and reminded me again that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. Then later on, a parent email. It was beautiful, and I tweeted about it.
And the floodgates opened. I don’t have 1200 likes combined on all my posts in my 10 or so years on Twitter. But this one touched a nerve I guess.
Teachers responded with the names they had given their files (“In Case Of Existential Crisis” was my favorite). Several teachers replied that this year they read their file of notes every day. One said she keeps it in her desk at work and oh how she wishes she would have brought that file home in March.
Woah.
It’s the year of Plan B and Plan C and..
Much is made of self-care these days, with good reason. Teachers, parents, and students are all trying to navigate an impossibly challenging terrain. The days are endless, the weekends short and filled with their own brand of stress. Everybody has their own methods of getting by. Saturdays off. Running. Music. Or a long drive to look at leaves.
And so forth.
While we are checking on each other though, we need to keep in mind that maybe our kids need a check-in too.
From that article:
As for my daughter, we ultimately decided it was time to implement some rules — especially as we enter a new school year: when she isn’t studying at her desk, she must be in a family space. She must spend time outside everyday. Screen time is limited, with all devices turned in at a set time each evening. While it hasn’t been easy, the payoff has been good for her mental health, and for our relationships.
In a related story, I got to hang with some middle school kids this week, supervising a service project for our middle school youth group.
I spent a little time reflecting on those couple of hours after reading the Laura Evans piece. The kids who worked on the courtyard project are all back in face-to-face school full-time. They haven’t been shut in their room away from friends and fun for the last 8 months. Maybe the quarantine life hasn’t had the same effect on them as on others. Or maybe they were just super-happy to be outside with their friends, doing something “normal”.
I’ve been teaching & facilitating classes and session for the youth group and religious education at my parish for over 10 years. I don’t see that group of kids nearly as often as I see my school kids. Once a week or once a month, tops. So I’m probably not close enough to know how they are doing. Even when I do a “check-in” question at the start of class they are a little reticent. And if there were issues I think we’d hear from the parents if they weren’t OK.
But maybe not. One of the things middle school kids hate worse than school is being put on the spot. It really requires a relationship and trust before they open up to an adult.
So all I can really do is be sincere, and keep checking in. And when they have something to tell me, they will.
Sometimes all it takes is finding out that someone else feels the same way you do.
Ask my group of online teacher friends this week.